I realized I no longer needed love when I discovered I AM love. For so long, like all of us, I searched for love outside, in other people, in relationships, in the world. And it is good that we do this. We are searching for what we ARE. There is nothing better to search for. We’re just looking in the wrong place.
What most of us never realize is that this great love that we feel for others is really just a reflection of what has always been right here and that we could never be separate from. So if we are not in a loving relationship we feel we are missing something. We feel lonely and unloved. We don’t realize that love could never have left us because this love we are searching for is what we are and have always been.
It is quite a profound discovery to realize this. Most of us never do. Because we feel that love is outside us and separate from us we have unrealistic expectations of our partners and ourselves. We want our partner to give us what we already are. In the beginning of our intimate relationships we feel this great rush of love because our inner love has been awakened. We don’t realize this and imagine that it is the other person that is causing these wonderful feelings. Because we are not aware of what is really happening, the relationship often ends up in struggles and suffering. We are asking from others something that we already are. Until we finally realize this, we will always end up with suffering.
Until we truly know what we are, we will always suffer. Suffering is life’s way of pointing us back toward Truth. When we don’t pay attention, suffering increases until we do.
The interesting thing about realizing that you ARE love and can never be separate from it is that the world then totally loves you. When you felt that you needed love and could find it outside yourself, it didn’t feel that the world was showering you with love. Your experiences with love always had their ups and downs. Some good days and some bad days. But when you realize that you ARE love all that changes. You are no longer seeking love yet it comes to you continuously.
It is like trying to pet a cat that doesn’t want to be patted. The more you chase after it, the further away it goes. But when you’re just sitting there, relaxed and comfortable, the cat leaps up on your lap and will stay there for hours. And love is like that too. When you chase after it, it always seems just out of reach. When you simply relax and be what you are, you find that love is right here and always has been.
You find that you ARE love.
Awesome, Brilliant fantastic. I love it. This is in my opinion the single most important thing we as humans need to understand. It reminds me of the Osho quote “The ability to be alone is the ability to Love”
Once you understand this you will never be lonely and always be loved “Wherever you go there you are”
Thanks you for sharing your insight Namaste
Yes, Erik, this is indeed one of the greatest discoveries we can have as a human. Thank you, Brother.