People want to know how the awakened consciousness can help them lead better lives. It most certainly does. And here’s how.
It’s very important to realize that no person has ever nor can ever make you suffer. Only your mind can do that. A person can steal your car, insult you, get you fired from your job or physically abuse you. These are all things that happen. Only your mind tells you these things are bad. Only your mind can make you suffer. Once you fully understand this you begin to stop creating suffering with your mind. You stop projecting it out onto other people and the world and begin to take full responsibility for it. When that happens, suffering ends.
When you fall in love with someone, you think that love is outside of you in the other person or that they play some part in this love. But that’s also not true. This love was always in you. You just weren’t aware of it until you met this person.
The spiritual teachings and teachers you are so grateful for and you think have improved your life were also always inside you. You always had this wisdom. You just weren’t paying attention.
You have never been separate from anything. If you want to understand the world, stop looking outside for it. It has always been in you. It has never been separate from you. Until you truly realize this, you will continue projecting your mental ideas and beliefs onto the world and you will never see it as it is. You will never realize yourself as you are. There is no separation at all.
Until you realize this, everything I just wrote will be limited to ideas. These cannot help you. When you experience this non-separation directly, it will be obvious and you will wonder how you could not see this before. Until you do, simply realize no person has ever made you suffer nor can they. Understand that it is only your mind that can do that. And it is probably doing a very good job. When you love someone, realize that this love has always been in you and you have never been separate from it. Even when you felt alone and lonely, it was always here.
And when you listen to spiritual teachings from me or any other teacher, realize that this wisdom has always been with you and you have never been separate from it. That is why it resonates in your heart.
If you really want to see the world, close your eyes and look within. It’s all here. It’s always been here.
Even if you have not realized this yet, live as if you have. This alone will greatly improve your life.
It is not fine, Laura. But it is what is in that moment of abuse. Whatever is happening we cannot deny it is happening. And there is great learning in that moment if we are open to it. Why are we in a relationship with someone who abuses us? Is being in such a relationship not a form of self-abuse on a deeper level? Have we ever been in another relationships where there was abuse? How many? Why did this happen? Was it just bad luck or is there a pattern that should be seen and learned from? What are our thoughts about ourself? Are these kind, loving and supportive thoughts. Are are they critical and demeaning and judging?
Nothing is ever as simple as it seems on the surface. There are usually much deeper levels going on. When we experience life as a separate self, separate from others, the world and life itself, we will inevitably suffer. This is a fundamental truth of life and human beings. It is because of this suffering that some human beings eventually wake up to a much greater truth. They realize that they are not now, nor have they ever been, separate from the totality of all existence in any way at all. They have always been One. They have always been complete. And in this realization they sense a fundamental perfection about all of it. Yes, all of it. They see that the suffering they experienced somehow led to the great insights and awareness that allowed them to see through the dream of separation and wake up. So they can no longer judge this suffering as bad or negative even though it was terribly painful and traumatic at the time. They see life with completely different eyes.
It is true that not many do experience this awakening. It is still quite rare. Although never before in recorded human history have so many people awakened in one time period. Until one is awake it is not possible to understand everything I write about. Some suspension of disbelief may be required. There is a different way to see the world and the self. Some people open to this by being with me in the Enlightenment Experience Groups and directly experiencing that it is possible for someone to live in this state of deep freedom, bliss, peace and love. Just seeing and feeling this in me allows them to open to it in themselves. Some people experience this through reading my writing which is also written from this same place of freedom. Those who are ready to experience this freedom, this awakening, feel called to it. Those who are not, don’t.
So when we awaken from this dream of separation that almost all of humanity still experiences as reality and their life, we see the world in a very different way. And there is a fundamental perfection in all of it. And, yes, that does include war, poverty, disease, abuse and anything else we had once perceived as terribly negative.
It doesn’t mean we do not feel compassion. We have deeper love than we ever experienced before. We are the very embodiment of love in a human form. But we don’t see the world in the same way as those who do not see this fundamental perfection of all life. We have deep compassion and love for those still trapped in the illusion of separation and suffering. And we dedicate our lives to their liberation and freedom from illusion and suffering.
And, in more practical and immediate terms, I would always suggest someone being abused by her husband to create as much physical distance as possible. The police and courts can be helpful with this. Verbal abuse is just as damaging as physical abuse and the police and courts will not help with this. But the same advise applies. Create as much physical and psychological distance as possible. And then she must really look at why she allowed this situation to happen. Enlightenment might take some time. Until then, keep yourself safe. Only be in relationships where there is mutual love and support. And to have those relationships you must learn to really love and support yourself. If you want to have a happy life, this is essential.
So if we are physically abused by our husband that is fine? maybe I am just reading this wrongly.